Growing up, I had always dreamed of finding the guy of my dreams, falling in love, getting married, and living happily ever after. That was the goal. That is when my life would begin.
Well, the years went by with still no luck in relationships, and I started to think, I am in my 20’s….. and I may not be married till I am in my 30’s, and I am waiting to “begin my life” until my wedding day. Will I someday look back on my younger years and think that I wasted them? Wasted them wishing for a guy to come save me…wishing for a life someone else had… wishing for my fairytale ending?
No. Not me. I will not waste these days, because I will not get them back. There are things I can do, and focus on, and strive for right now that I would not get to do if I was married with children. God has a plan for this time, and I will not miss it, by wishing my life away or feeling bad for myself when I am right where God wants me.
This life is not about me.
I am not promised tomorrow. I could die before I ever get married…. or I may possibly never get married. It may just not be in God’s plan. Could I be content with my life if that happened?
It is all about Him. The end. Not getting the stuff we want out of serving Him.
Everyone wants it. That perfect relationship. The one where he calls you beautiful, and special, and his. The one where everything reminds you of that person. The one where when you spend time together, you are completely happy and at peace. The one where you just know…. you just know that you were meant for each other.
He is my perfect forever relationship. I have found who I was meant for… and, here is the cool part, you are meant for Him too. Each and every one of us were meant for God. You and God were literally made for each other.
No, really and seriously, you were made FOR God, and made to be with Him. He made you for Himself.
I can not tell you the freedom came when I realized that God is my other half…. and not just until someone better comes along. It is not about getting what we want out of God, It is about being completely His.
You were created to bring Him pleasure with your fellowship, with your singing, with your beauty, with your praise, with your love.
He is the One for you. He is our true love, our fulfillment, and our joy.
Behold, what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God. 1 John 3:1a
And ye are complete in him, which is the head of all principality and power. Colossians 2:10
So many of us are searching for that person here on earth. We are waiting for a somebody to come along and fill the void. We look for a completer piece to an emptiness in our hearts that was meant for God alone to fill, and until we discover this, we will not be whole, relationship or not.
You were made perfectly by God with everything you need to bring Him joy and glory. He made your face exactly how he loves it. He gave you the perfect hair, skin, and teeth to bring a smile to his face. Your personality is just right for Him. When He looks at you, He is enthralled with your beauty. He is always there to listen and give the best and most perfect answer.
Out of all of God’s creations, you are one of His very favorites.
He longs to have a relationship with you. He longs for you to know His love. He longs to fill your heart, and give you peace and satisfaction with His promises and comforts found in His word. It pleases Him to be number one in our hearts, and to obey His words out of a heart of love.
He loves you more than anyone you have ever known on earth with a love you could not even imagine. He is your other half. Fall in love with Jesus. That’s it. He offers so much more than anyone in this world ever could give, and it is a relationship better than any you will ever know.
A human being on earth can never fulfill what was meant to be filled by the one you were made for, and it will destroy your relationships if you expect them to. You will have a miserable life and marriage if that relationship is where you find your identity….. even if it hasn’t happened yet.
God will never leave you or forsake you. He comforts, and restores. He leads you and guides you. He is your best friend, and your closest ally. He knows you the best and loves you the most.
The LORD has appeared of old unto me, saying, Yea, I have loved you with an everlasting love: therefore with lovingkindness have I drawn you. Jeremiah 31:3
God is the end. He is our happy ending. Christ is our goal. A husband is great and a blessing from God, and there is nothing wrong with getting married. I certainly still want to… but, if God has chosen to keep me for Himself, and to be completely and solely His for a while longer…. or even forever, I can be content with that. It even makes me feel special. Because I am made whole, filled up, and complete… and in love with Him. Because, even after marriage, no one will complete me and fulfill me like Jesus does.
There will be a wedding one day, more beautiful than we could ever imagine, when our Prince will come. When a nail-scarred hand will reach out and take ours, and lead us through the gates of heaven to forever be with our Bride-groom. This is the wedding day that is our goal.. that is the happy ending, and that day is only the beginning. This is the day that should give us butterflies in our stomachs, and this is the day we should be preparing ourselves for.
So… Stop waiting, and start living. Start living for the One who loves you. Start falling more in love with Him everyday. Start finding your everything in His arms. Stop wasting your days pining over whats not in God’s plan yet. Stop waiting to give your everything to someone else. Fall in love with Jesus, and give your everything to Him.
Your life is now.
This song by Casting Crowns is amazing. It tells of this the day we will meet our Bride-groom. I wanted to share it with you…I can not wait for this day.
I really like this blog. It took me a while to come to that point, but I finally did. I want single girls to know that your husband is not capable of being “your savior”. I have found that when I have spent some good time with my First Love, Jesus, naturally..my time with my husband is so much sweeter. Marriage is a picture of the Heavenly marriage to come like you said. A year before I even met my husband, I went thru a chick flick detox. This earthly romance on earth is intended to point us to Him. Good blog!!!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Tanya :] Yes, Marriage is after all, only a picture that will one day give way to the reality of what it portrays. Our special relationship and marriage with our Jesus. xoxo
I stumbled on your site and just read this wonderful article, which I agree with 100%, its great to see girls with that mindset especially in this day in age! Even though I’m a guy (from a middle east culture where the parents want to marry you off as soon as you graduate) i often struggle with this same problem of waiting to get married so that my “life will start” and I have to remind myself that I should be satisfied with god first, that he is the “one” for me. maybe god is still trying to build me up to be used for him and will reveal his will in due time! The best time for a great relationship with god is when your single. Thanks and god bless!
Wow I have never read a blog that paints Christ love for us and compares it with the joy of marriage or finding God’s best for us. What I loved about this piece, is that dream man is Jesus, and that love & completeness we’ve always longed for as a single person can be found in him. I love this picture you painted of Christ in this line “there will be a wedding one day, more beautiful than we could ever imagine, when our Prince will come. When a nail-scarred hand will reach out and take ours, and lead us through the gates of heaven to forever be with our Bride-groom”. I never thought of it that way. I loved reading this piece, and I’ll read it again & again until it sinks in. thank you for sharing this. God bless you!!!
Amazing. Beautifully said. Thank you for the encouragement!!!
Muito inspirador, lindas palavras! Muitas pessoas estão esperando por algo que não deveriam se preocupar, pois Deus já tem tudo sob controle. Que Deus abençõe todos aqueles que precisam de um conforto em seus corações. E que assim seja feito. Viva o agora, viva para Jesus!
Deus esteja contigo.
So well said! Glory to God.
Thank you so much for this blog post. Glory to God! By His grace, He led me to it. This is something I’ve been struggling with a lot for the past few weeks. I am so encouraged by your words. Thank you again for your boldness.
Thank you very much for this inspiring and wonderful blog. Continue to inspire and uplift people with your thoughts. God bless you always ^_^
Wow, this really hit me like a ton of bricks. I can’t thank you enough for this beautifully written post. Very inspiring and moving 🙂 May God bless you and your ministry. May you also continue to spread His wonderful word and speak through the spirits of people all around the world. For all that we do is for His honor and glory.