Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting. Galations 6:7-8
The law of sowing and reaping. It’s not just a possibility. It’s a promise from God’s word. We understand that it means that every choice we make has consequences. Good choices lead to good consequences. Bad choices lead to bad consequences. But what does this mean when it comes to relationships, romantic or otherwise?
Well, allow me to let you in on a secret. The law of sowing and reaping has nothing to do with what anyone else has done or is doing. It is what we call an “independent event” because the outcome of our choices is not affected by anyone else’s choices. Why is this good news?
Well sometimes even when we do the right thing, others do the wrong thing. Sometimes we choose to give of our hearts and they get broken. Sometimes we love over and over to receive nothing back from others except selfishness, pride, and hate, and it’s hard to keep going because we see their choices as something that was a result of our choices. That is not the case.
You see, if you pour out love on other people it’s as if it is being poured into a big tank. God is storing up all that love and labeling it with your name so that it can be poured back on you at some point. Our tank is independent from anyone else’s tank. No one gets to pour anything in our tank or take anything out. God is in charge and He sees our hearts. He is saving all the love we give away so He can dump it right back on us in the future. It doesn’t matter if it’s reciprocated right now or if it’s not.
Likewise, if the people we love, return with selfishness, and pride, and cruelty, they are pouring all that hate into their own tank. God sees what they are doing and, at some point, maybe not today maybe not tomorrow, but at some point, they will get all that hate, selfishness, and pride, and arrogance poured out on them. They will receive the results of what they have poured into their tank. It has their name on it in big black inky letters.
What does that teach us?
Well, #1 it teaches us that it is never a waste of our hearts to give love. We don’t love because other people are worthy of love or other people have given us love or because we will always immediately receive love in return from that person. We love because God told us to love. We love because God loved us and sent his son to redeem our fallen souls. We have received love from Him, and we give love out even when we don’t feel like it because God has asked that of us.
#2 It also teaches us that in romantic relationships, God knows the whole story. If we have given our hearts to someone, if we have truly tried to love them in the right ways, we will reap what we have sown. God told us that we would.
#3 Lastly, it teaches us that just because hate is what we received in exchange for our love doesn’t mean that’s what we deserve. God is in charge in this universe and He is the only one allowed to deal out consequences in this situation. The love in our hearts deserves to be returned with the same kind of love. It is worthy of being being appreciated and reciprocated. It’s like God is saying, “Nope, your heart doesn’t deserve that, and, don’t worry, I’m storing it up. You’ll get it back one day. Your love will not be unredeemed. It’s got your name on it.” That’s what this promise is saying.
If you’ve been broken hearted for too long now, remember that God knows your heart. He knows all the love you have for Him, and he knows the love you have given away. He has every bit of it measured and poured out into a tank, and in his time, you will reap what you have sown. Those who have done wrong against you and against others will receive what they have sown as well.
Get this. It’s not just a possibility. It’s a promise. Don’t get weary or discouraged. Don’t give up on people or on love or on God. Find freedom in this promise that God knows. God sees and He will always take care of you. Just you wait and see.
And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. Galations 6:9