I'm glad I waited for you.

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I have not been this nervous to write a blog post in a long time. Where do I start? How do I begin? I guess at the beginning.

The past 3 years I have been writing to you about relationships, and how waiting for the right one was the best decision you could make. Waiting on God’s timing, and waiting for peace, and waiting for real love, and waiting for marriage. There are so many things to wait for, and in our microwave generation, it’s just so hard. I’ve been telling you God’s ways are best, not knowing when or if or how my own story would work out.

About three weeks ago, I married Michael. (No, I don’t have pictures yet; I’m just as anxious as you are to see them tho!!:) I am 29 years old. I waited. We waited. Not as long as maybe some of you, and longer than maybe some of you, but we waited nonetheless, and I shared my journey with you while I did. I trusted that after all that I have poured out from my heart to you, that one day, I would be able to say, “God is right” and “It is worth it.” Well, today is that day, and I am so excited to write this post about waiting, and why we did.

1. We waited for each other.

There were lots of possible people that I could have ended up with for the rest of my life, and there were plenty of people that he could have settled for as well. But God’s grace didn’t allow it. As individuals, we sought to do the will of God and wanted his will for our lives, and God was faithful. None of the others worked out. None of the others brought peace. None of the others were God’s best, and at the time, they may have seemed like the hardest decisions in the world to make, but looking back, they were the most clear, and the easiest. God had this planned all along. Michael and Lauren were meant to be.

I know that some people say, I may have even said that there is no “the one.” God lets you choose, but knowing the path that I have taken to get here, and knowing the path that my husband has taken to get here, I can’t believe that this was not of God. God did this, and I’m glad I waited.

2. We waited for love.

Out of all the things I have waited for in my life, my husband is the greatest. I have said all this before, but he is truly the man of my dreams in so many ways and ways I could not even have known to ask for. He is not perfect by any means, and marriage, I know, is a constant life-long lesson of learning to adapt, and forgive, and think of someone else more often than you think of yourself; however, knowing that he is all-in, willing to work, and give, and sacrifice, and support, and learn with me is the best feeling in the world.

There are so many different definitions for love out there, and so many differing imaginings of what is actually feels like, but the thing is, when its real, it’s all of them and not any of them at the same time. My husband is my best friend, and my lover, and my secret keeper, and my picture hanger, and my adventure partner, and my hand holder, and my dinner experimenter, and my trust earner, and my lawn mower, and my heart guarder, and my midnight snorer…… He’s all the big things and all the little things and all the exciting things and all the boring things and all the best things. He’s all the things I waited for and all the things I didn’t know I needed. He’s God’s very best for me. I’m glad I waited for him.

3. We waited for marriage.

I’ve gone back and forth in my heart and mind about this part of the post, and asked God to help me write what He wants me to write. I see so many articles floating around, things basically like, “I didn’t wait to have sex and nothing happened” or worse, “I waited to have sex and I wished I hadn’t.” Those articles make my heart break. They made my heart break before because I trusted God that His way was best, and to hear those things was downright discouraging. It was discouraging to me to hear because it made me think that God was making a bigger deal of this sex thing than it actually was.

Now, I’m on the other side of marriage, and I want you to know….. from me, as your friend, or your big sister, or your little sister, whatever I am to you….. I care about you so much, and I want you to do life God’s way. I want you to know that God is not a drama queen. Sex is a big deal, and it is an even bigger deal to me now than it was when I was single. I didn’t know how special it was, and how it binds you to the person you share it with. I just can’t express how thankful I am that I share this experience with my husband, and no one else. He has shared it with me, and no one else. It didn’t come with guilt or shame. It didn’t come with scary thoughts that someone might find out or that I would become pregnant as a single woman. It didn’t come as a blow to my self-worth that I was just another conquest to a man who just wanted me for a while, and not forever. All these things that I have seen happen around me. My experience was different, because God told me what to do and I did it. He told me to wait, and I waited. I did it God’s way, and I am forever grateful to God and his grace that I did.

I don’t know what you’ve heard in your life. I don’t know who has shared their stories with you. I don’t know what you’ve learned or who you have has as a role model of how it should be done, but none of that matters. My word and my story doesn’t even matter. Only God’s. God’s ways are always right, and best, and perfect. And in this area too. He’s not wrong or outdated or misinformed. He knows what he is talking about and loves us enough to tell us right from wrong. We only have to choose it for ourselves.

“I’m glad I waited for you.”

That’s what Michael said to me on our wedding night, and in that moment, more than any other moment, every day that I had lived trusting God that He was right and his ways were perfect, every day that I chose for myself to do right no matter what, every day that I chose to wait no matter how I felt or what I doubted…. it was all worth it. It was worth the wait, guys. And I was able to turn to my true love, that God has given me, and smile and say, “I’m glad I waited for you, too” because God’s ways are perfect.

 

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54 comments

  1. Thank you so so much for sharing this! Your story brings more encouragement than you know, and I’m so thankful for your obedience to the Lord and being an example of His perfect ways. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!

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  2. I can’t tell you how much this encourages me or how grateful I am for your story and your willingness to be candid with us before you even knew how your own story would unfold. Thank you thank you thank you!

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  3. God BLESS YOU LAUREN!!!!! young men and women need to see more posts like this. There are so many evil posts that contradict God’s word and makes “sense” but i’m glad to read your testimony and see someone who has gone ahead on the journey i’m on and can say God is indeed the truth!

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  4. Your story has really bless my life and so am also praying that God am on the road to fulfillment, pls help me to wait, to stay focus, and to be obedient…..thus far I have waited, pls help me to really wait to the end…….True love waits….

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    • You know, I’m so glad you shared this. I’m 25 and I have a stepsister 6 months younger than me and a step sister that is is 1.5 years older than me. Both are married and one has a child. My family is constantly on me and my dating life (why haven’t I met someone, blah blah blah). The more I tell them, “Yes, I want to get married, but it’s not ultimate in my life”, the harder it gets to be patient. I have found myself (recently) really struggling with this area in my life. It’s just encouraging because there is only so much hounding from my family I can take. I really want to set an example of what a godly marriage looks like. Thank you for a reminder to be patient. (:

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  5. Your words–even for a guy–mean so much and provide an immense amount of motivation to wait. My favorite lines: “He’s not wrong or outdated or misinformed. He knows what he is talking about and loves us enough to tell us right from wrong. We only have to choose it for ourselves.” You’re absolutely right. God is all-knowing and He has the best plan already laid out for us. Thank you for writing this.

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  6. Thank you for this post. It is very encouraging to me. I don’t remember how I first came across your blog but I have been subscribed for a while. I am 29 and still waiting. I’ve had opportunities but for various reasons just haven’t felt like I could fully give myself to them. To my the two most bewildering comments from other people are, “Lower your standards (for a boyfriend) and give God a chance to change him.” Sometimes followed by “I just want to see you happy.” And the other are various implications that
    I must be getting “desperate” at my age. If only they knew how many people I could have said yes to and didn’t because they weren’t what I am waiting for and I still believe that “what/who I am waiting for” is also waiting for me. Thank you also for what you said about waiting for sex. You might get a lot of flack for it, but for what it’s worth I believe God tells us to do it that way for our own benefit not His and when we view it as a restriction rather than a beautiful gift intended to be opened at a specific time we miss out on the full impact of the glorious pleasure and unity it is intended to bring to a marriage.

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  7. I have been thinking about this so much lately, so this post is extremely helpful and relevant to me! I was thinking and thinking that it’s probably not even worth it to wait, but your post inspired me so much and told me otherwise.. Like you said, God’s timing is perfect! Thank you, Lauren!

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  8. O! My! What a testimony! So inspiring! Thanks for sharing, Lauren. It gladens my heart that it was all worth the wait. I have tears in my eyes right now…

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  9. Congratulations!! You are such an inspiration. Your blogs have helped me thru many dark days. God Bless You and your new husband!!

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  10. I first would like to say that i am proud of you and your husband for being obedient to God. With obedience comes blessings! You’re such an inspiration to me for standing through it all. Your testimony gives me hope to keep putting on. Thank you and keep seeing God!

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  11. Beautiful testimony darling girl. You are an inspiration to so many young women. I have given your website out to so many young ladies, momma’s and daddy’s. Keep telling it Lauren. Your journey is leading many young people to the narrow gate. I love you honey…

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  12. This blessed my heart so much. Just tonight I was praying asking God to help me trust in His perfect timing for a husband. I’ve been broken hearted only too many times and am ready to embrace singleness until God blesses me with a husband. I am 28 and I often worry saying ” when God when?” Especially as there isn’t even a guy that I can possibly marry that I can see.
    To be honest sometimes I think that giving up on true love after Christ is easier that waiting ( cause it seems like forever) and sometimes I begin to lose hope that it will ever happen for me. But am learning day by day to embrace my life for what it is now all the while trusting in His perfect timing to bring this man in my life who will later become my husband and me his bride.
    Thank you so much for encouraging others to wait. You truly encourage from a place where you have been yourself. You feel and understand the pain, heartache, hopes and dreams of us all.
    All the way from the caribbean island of Trinidad and Tobago, God bless you and Michael more than you can possibly imagine.
    Jolene

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  13. This is so relevant. Thank you so much for allowing the Lord to use you through writing so honestly. This was such a good reminder that I am waiting because I am trusting God and that he knows better than I. I know my waiting is not in vain.

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  14. Thanks for sharing this!
    Been waiting for someone, sometimes is not really easy.
    But, when I put my trust to Him, the on who create me, I do really believe like you believe in Him, that He has a bigger plan than mine.
    At this time, God only say “be patient, be faithful, and trust me”
    The first time I hear what God said to me, I really don’t understand what God’s want. But, after I read your article, I know that something worth is worth it to wait.

    I’m so blessed by your article. Thank you for powerful writing.
    And Happy Wedding for you. May God bless your marriage

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  15. The timing of this article is absolutely incredible. Thanks for your integrity filled thoughts and seriously encouraging words. Congratulations on your wedding and thank you so much for being a true role model and hope that even though it’s hard to wait, it CAN be done, and there IS a right way.
    Keep sending God’s words directly our way – you have no idea how much they mean to me!

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  16. Hi Lauren,
    Thanks for sharing your story and journey with us. Your blogs are truthful and always encouraging. In a world where it has become the norm to sleep around and not having sex before marriage is viewed as taboo, I’m glad to read the story of someone older who waited and can attest that it is truly worth it. Thanks for being a good role model πŸ™‚ I can’t wait to see what God has planned for you and Michael in this new phase of your lives! I know it’s going to be amazing πŸ˜€

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  17. Thank you for this beautiful post Lauren. Thank you for never straying away from the word of God. And Thank you for your courage. May the lord continue to pour his wisdom on you.

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  18. This post is not just inspiring, it is a testimony to the faithfulness of God towards his children. I pray that God will continue to equip us all to be a light in the darkness for all to see and believe in Christ our Saviour. Congratualtions Lauren,you are blessed!

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  19. Congratulations Lauren and husband! May God bless you both abundantly. I really enjoy reading these testimonies but I have to admit that because of my age and other issues it’s hard for me to believe that someday I will meet that special someone.

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  20. Hearty congratulations :)))) Lauren n Michel. God did amazing work in ur life through which I m very much inspired n encouraged.. I m waiting for the right one and I am very glad that I m waiting in lord πŸ™‚ thankq for such an awesome piece of knowledge.

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  21. This is so encouraging because I remember all the many posts you did on being single and waiting for the right one. It can be hard to wait sometimes because you don’t know exactly what you’re waiting for and if it will even be worth it. But stories like your’s encourage us that it IS indeed worth it. I’m so happy for you! I can’t wait to be married one day, but I know God’s timing is way better than my timing. I know you had to go through a lot of the same things the rest of us have to go through. You know what it’s like to get all the comments from nosy people lol. By the way, do you even read the comments on your blog? I love commenting on your posts and reading the comments of others’, but I never see you respond to any of them. Just wondering πŸ™‚

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  22. Thanks so much Lauren for being such an inspiration. I have shared many of your statuses. I am glad to have followed your journey. All the very best with you and your husband. I pray I also get to say this one day.

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  23. Hi Lauren,
    Congratulations! May the Lord bless you and your husband in your new life together.

    Thank you for this encouraging post! I am also seeking to do the Lord’s will as far as relationships and marriage. Thanks for sharing your story.

    “Now may our Lord Jesus Christ Himself, and our God and Father, who has loved us and given us everlasting consolation and good hope by grace, comfort your hearts and establish you in every good word and work.”
    2 Thess. 2:16-17

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  24. I am so proud of you Lauren!! I am so happy for you and your husband as well.
    I completely agree…articles that are titled with: “Reasons why I wish I hadn’t waited” are so discouraging! I am so happy you are able to be a light in the darkness.
    Thank you for letting God be evident through your life and sharing your heart with us.
    I look up to you simply because you point to God’s words and His faithfulness.

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  25. Such an inspiration! πŸ™‚ Thank you for sharing your wisdom and wonderful experienced of waiting…May God Bless you more. Continue to encourage and share Gods words..You are a blessing πŸ™‚

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  26. Hi Lauren its soooo lovely and encouraging to read your love story :). I remember you followed me on twitter so started following back and soooo glad I did as I needed to hear your words of encouragement about relationships at the time as I was getting over a break up. I’ve been following you ever since (on instagram now tho as no longer on twitter) and its beautiful to see your story unfold esp as you have been single whilst writing your posts and now you’re married. I say all this to say that I’m glad you allowed God to use you in this way esp as we live in a society that teaches opposite to what God teaches, I don’t think you realise how many peoples lives you’ve helped (or maybe you do haha),and that your obedience to God will not go unnoticed..and its beautiful that you teach what God teaches :).
    Wishing you and your husband all the best and thanks for being you.

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  27. This is so precious to read! Thank you, thank you for sharing this with our daughters! However, I am wondering if you have any articles for girls who didn’t wait. I have a daughter that “gave in to that temptation.” Unfortunately, she has not repented. I want to help her, but don’t know how. Any referrals or articles you have would be appreciated!

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  28. I love how real and honest you are in this post Lauren. You are a role model for how women should live around the world and I’m really proud of you!

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  29. Thank you for sharing your story πŸ™‚ im learning it really is the journey of waiting that prepares us for the promise. So often we just want the promise but do not have the strong foundation needed for it to stand on. It sound like you and your hubby have a proper foundation. May God sustain you in your journey ahead and contine revealing His purpose and calling on your lives. SHALOM

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  30. Hi Lauren, first of all let me congratulate you both on your wedding, I trust that you will havea beautiful blessed marriage .
    Then I want to just thank you for all your posts they are such an encouragement to people like us who believe in waiting for the one God has for you, that also includes purity, and I am so proud of you two. My heart is glad and I bless God for you. I will keep on waiting.

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  31. I like it so much the article and the whole website,
    I found you today through a picture on Pinterest: “You don’t have to wait to hear :”Well Done.” if you do it right,You can know everyday that God is smiling and saying, “That’s My Girl” ❀

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  32. Dear Lauren,
    Thank you so much for sharing such a wonderful testimony. since from my childhood I’ve been longing for such kind of marriage and am so blessed and encouraged, as i read your story. I do personally believe in waiting God’s timing but there are times, asking to myself “Is it worth waiting?” Thank you for strengthening my faith, Yes “His way is right, best and perfect”
    BIG Congratulations to u both… πŸ™‚ God Bless you abundantly…!

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  33. Wow,its so amazing,you had the spirit of God really,thank you for obedience to God its so encouraging to read this, so touching and so inspiring,i pray that God guides me for the rest of my life’s journey as i wait for my husband from him. Thank you so very much.you are blessed.

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  34. Thank you for writing about this! It’s not an easy topic to put out in the stratosphere. It’s controversial. It’s counter cultural. It’s God honoring! And that scared the world. Keep it up!!!

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  35. I really want to thank you for writing this, I feel like I can’t even properly explain how much this post helped me! I’ve been struggling with relationships lately and someone telling that waiting for the right person is worth it, was just the thing I needed right now. So thank you a lot and my best wishes to you both! ❀

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  36. Thank you so much for sharing your story, Lauren. I have been following your blog for a while, and your writing and way of life has inspired me so much!! Your commitment to waiting on God’s best in the area of dating and relationships encouraged me greatly (even though I’m only fifteen.) I just want to thank you so much for absolutely just letting God work His best in your life, from your season of singleness to now your marriage to Michael. It has been so beautiful to see your story unfold! Thank you for being an inspiration to so many girls like me, and especially for doing it all for God’s glory and not your own. Sending many virtual hugs your way. πŸ˜‰ (By the way, your wedding day is my birthday!)

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  37. Thank you for this post Lauren. I read this on your Instagram account but something led me to read it again and i am as blessed by it now as I was when I first read it. Thank you for being our hope and encouragement when we get a little frustrated in the waiting room… all the way from Cape Town, South Africa I’d like to send my best wishes and blessings to you and your husband

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  38. I cried when I’ve read “I’m glad I’ve waited for you.” That was so touching! Thank you for being an inspiration Lauren πŸ™‚

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  39. I’m probably much older ’32’ than other people who have replied to your inspiring story. It has given me strength and patience to wait for that special someone I can call my best friend in life and she can call me hers. My own beautiful Angel. God bless you Lauren and your husband.

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  40. This is so beautiful! Seriously, where are the tissues when I need them? Couldn’t help but tear up a little while reading this. I can’t wait to experience something like this someday.

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  41. I want you to know I am glad I stumbled across your blog. Especially this post.. I wish I could say that I waited, thst I’m still waiting, but sadly I gave in at a young age to someone I thought I loved, being too young and naive to even know what love was. It took me years to find my way back to God, but I did and I have been waiting for that One God has promised me. I am now 30 years old and will be 31 in just a few weeks. It gets discouraging because people around me are married or have found their forever partner and I am still waiting. I want you to know thst this post has really helped me, because it’s a reminder that I’m doing the right thing now. I’m waiting for God to send that right man that He has chosen for me. I believe when God sends him, it will be perfectly put together and I will be glad I have spent the past 5 years alone and waiting for who God sent me. Thank you and may God bless you!

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  42. I’ve read this post many times and will read it many more times because i am waiting for God’s best too. When i feel like i am losing hope i come here and read it

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  43. Thank you for writing this. I usually am a pretty “strong” single woman and pretty okay with being single and knowing that God has the best man for me already planned for me in the future, but tonight was just one of those nights that the enemy has been trying to get me to doubt God and feel lonely. Reading your posts about singleness, waiting, and trusting in God brings me back to resting in His goodness, faithfulness, love, and grace. I will continue to pray that God molds me every day into a more faithful, patient, and fully surrendered servant.

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  44. God bless you Lauren for this post. it has truly blessed my heart. keep up the good work ,our generation needs to hear that our God is great than this world and His plans are better.

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