Fifty shades of… No Way


A lie has been sold to women across this country. A lie set down on black and white put into the hands of our mothers, and sisters, and daughters. A lie about one of the most beautiful and intimate acts that God created between a husband and wife. The world at the command of the devil has taken its pen and destroyed what is supposed to be beautiful and made it evil and disgusting and violent and something it was never, ever meant to be.

Fifty shades of Grey the movie will be released in February of next year, and it makes my heart sick. The movie is described as a “tasteful” and “artistic” “love story” and only the trailer has come out. I have neither read the book nor seen the trailer nor do I intend to. I would sooner step out into a busy highway in front of oncoming traffic than to step out onto that slippery slope of “erotica/romance” since both would destroy my life.

Many people argue romance novels are “pornography” for women. I know many Christian authors have written many Christian romance novels that are closer to science fiction than pornography. However, many romance novels do contain pornography. Pornography is a lie… Sexual sin does not free or empower you. It enslaves you. Romance novels are a lie… real life is not scripted. It does not happen in front of a camera or at the will of a human author. There are no edits, rewrites, hair/makeup artists, photoshopping, and even if it did, I would want no part in that world.

The Bible condemns sexual sin. Why? Because God doesn’t want us to have any fun? No…. because God created love and marriage and sex. He designed it and gave it to us. He knows how it works, and He knows that if we do things out of order, and twist and destroy and warp his beautiful plan then we will destroy pieces of our lives that we can not fully recover. It wouldn’t be God coming after us to punish us either….. our sin would do that on its own. It is condemned by God to DO, it is condemned by God to READ about, and it is condemned by God to WATCH on a big screen. Because HE LOVES US and knows best for our lives.

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost [which is] in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20

Marriage [is] honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Hebrews 13:4

But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints; Ephesians 5:3

[But] whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he [that] doeth it destroyeth his own soul. Proverbs 6:32

When I think about what I want for my life, I have a choice. We all do. On one hand, I can have everything the world could offer me. I can choose that for myself. I can choose to lust over a book or a movie and turn passions that God gave me and that I’m saving for my husband into pieces of scrap I throw into the dirt for the dogs to devour. Or, I can choose to guard my heart, keep my purity, save my feelings and passions for something God has created for me. Something penned by His hand. Something more beautiful than a human author or screenwriter or director could ever offer. I can have the beautiful, perfect, plan of God. It is available to me if I love, obey, and glorify Him with my life. Why would I settle for less?

See, my purpose is too important. My purity is too important. My future marriage is too important. My future spouse is too important. I have given my life to God, and my life is too important to give my mind to Satan to dump in the meat grinder of all the lusts of the world.

Do you trust that God knows best? Do you trust that God is right in every situation? Do you trust his word when it says to RUN from sexual immorality because it will destroy you? Do you trust that you are too important and your marriage is too important? The choice is yours, you know. You can have it all- all the lust and sin and confusion and lostness of the world. Or… you can have the beauty and peace and love of a God-centered life and a God-written love story…

I believe God.


  1. Love this article! Truthful in every way. Do not give Satan a foothold by watching for even one second. That’s all he needs. Keep spreading your message!


  2. This is a must-read indeed. Personally, I am thankful that I read this because I had thoughts about wanting to go see this movie because I did read the books. From an early age til about 21 yrs old, I was very fond of the “romance” novels. The road I was on wasn’t one leading to Christ in high school/college. Anyway, (another story), Satan was surely tempting me to consider seeing this movie because I had read the books, and the thoughts that came with reading them. All of last night they kept showing the commercial for the trailer, and of course I watched it. In my head was two voices telling me one thing and then another that I shouldn’t go and see this movie because that be inappropriate, disrespectful, and not who you are anymore. Then I had the other voice telling me it’ll be ok to watch it, your not going to do anything, you can still remain pure of having sex if you just watch it.
    Then I came across your post about the movie, and it pretty much backed up what God was telling me. Satan has a disgusting and manipulative way of enticing us of what we may use to like or of our past. The Holy Spirit was clearly convicting me that this movie is a trap and is dangerous and toxic for your mind. Thank you Lauren for this post, and I pray this will convict or reach to other ladies hearts just like mine.


  3. I like your article.
    Keeping our eyes, minds and hearts pure will help us come in a more intimate relationship with our Creator and Savior! God will honor that.


  4. Thank you for this post ! This was just the reminder I needed. The world is full of temptation, and lust, and its often hard to find the pure and beautiful in this fast moving world.
    I Believe God.


  5. Yes yes yes!! Agreed to everything. Sin is like a flea. You don’t always see it. But they can jump right on you without even knowing about it. And then it eats at you. I never read any of the books. I read the Wikipedia version about this book and it absolutely disgusted me. These book are teaching our young girls and women the wrong things. This is why the word “love” is so distorted and twisted in our generations’ eyes. And girls are allowing themselves to be treated with anything but respect and care. What you read is what will feed you or eat you. Thanks for spreading the message of purity for all women, Lauren. 🙂


  6. Thank you! This is a great message that the world needs to hear! Thank you for standing up for God and spreading the truth!!


  7. Wow, awesome article! Praise the Lord for people who value purity.
    I don’t feel deprived because I’ve kept myself pure for my future husband- I’m thrilled!
    Your articles are such a blessing, Lauren!
    ~ Abby


  8. Hi lauren! I fully agree with the post. Many people joined in the fandom of #50shades so I was curious and decided to read the book! Didn’t end up even completing it. I was in shock! It reflects a disgusting portrayal of what any relationship should be like (let alone a Godly relationship.) I’m so saddened that women would settle for less and get carried away with this nonsensical fantasy. Satan is deceiving our girls so badly. Intimacy between husband and wife is supposed to be beautiful. Not tainted with “S&M”… Love this article. Hit the nail.
    Stay blessed honey xx


  9. Great message for females and males. I like to pose this question to people sometimes: “what if male/female sex organs disappeared, what do you think would happen? How would that effect the media? Would we be forced to love? Or would the world go crazy without sex? I’m just prone to wonder. Great writing exposing the truth about sexual purity. Much needed in the church and the world.


  10. I agree with the writer that we as Christians should not be so captivated by the filth the world wants to offer us. Song of Solomon is the love book for the Christians. It is explicit in details in its purity


  11. Thank you so much for this Post Lauren. I was sold this lie when I was a teenager and it is only now that I’ve almost graduated from college that I’ve began to see the truth. I’ve spent time studying the bible to find out what God’s standard or purity is, and it is clear that as Christians God doesn’t want even a hint of impurity in our hearts( This is paraphrased so please read this – Ephesians 5:3). Thank you Lauren for taking a stand for biblical purity.


  12. This is very well written. Much of what you said has resonated very loudly with me, and sometimes I need to be reminded of these things. I sincerely hope that women, especially young women, do not look to Fifty Shades (or Twilight, which Fifty is based upon) for an example of a successful relationship. We need to have higher standards and know that this type of relationship (domineering, controlling, misogynistic, etc.) is never, let me repeat, NEVER acceptable for any person. This author is promoting male dominance, female submission, even rape culture. Why would anyone want to read this?
    Thank you for writing this. Most of all, thank you for inspiring others to remember to value themselves because we are precious in God’s eyes.


  13. Wow! I’m moved… Definitely a call to restoration of attitude and behaviour towards purity. God bless you Lauren.


  14. Every person should know what you have to say because surely you are a child of God who knows what is good and pure. Thank you


  15. I agree, I read the book just to see what the hype was all about. It was horrible with a capital H. It was poorly written in every way, and I think that the author is very twisted in her own way. This is demonic in every way, I could barely get through it it very clearly defines an abusive relationship and it saddens me that so many women think that this behavior is ok just because he is rich and “handsome”. It sad that this is becoming a movie and condoning abusive sex (relationship) is not okay with me.


  16. Beautiful article. Thank you for saying it like it is…. We need women like you to help spread God’s TRUTH! Blessings ~


  17. Thank you for writing this! I have watched several marriages fall apart because they brought romance novels into the marriage and it led them down a terrible path…


  18. Hello, I’m Anna, and I want you to know that I absolutely love this truly insightful, informative, and wonderful article! It’s totally spot on, and I agree with everything you’ve said and included here. Thank you so much for writing! I really do love your other articles too! 🙂


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