A lie has been sold to women across this country. A lie set down on black and white put into the hands of our mothers, and sisters, and daughters. A lie about one of the most beautiful and intimate acts that God created between a husband and wife. The world at the command of the devil has taken its pen and destroyed what is supposed to be beautiful and made it evil and disgusting and violent and something it was never, ever meant to be.
Fifty shades of Grey the movie will be released in February of next year, and it makes my heart sick. The movie is described as a “tasteful” and “artistic” “love story” and only the trailer has come out. I have neither read the book nor seen the trailer nor do I intend to. I would sooner step out into a busy highway in front of oncoming traffic than to step out onto that slippery slope of “erotica/romance” since both would destroy my life.
Many people argue romance novels are “pornography” for women. I know many Christian authors have written many Christian romance novels that are closer to science fiction than pornography. However, many romance novels do contain pornography. Pornography is a lie… Sexual sin does not free or empower you. It enslaves you. Romance novels are a lie… real life is not scripted. It does not happen in front of a camera or at the will of a human author. There are no edits, rewrites, hair/makeup artists, photoshopping, and even if it did, I would want no part in that world.
The Bible condemns sexual sin. Why? Because God doesn’t want us to have any fun? No…. because God created love and marriage and sex. He designed it and gave it to us. He knows how it works, and He knows that if we do things out of order, and twist and destroy and warp his beautiful plan then we will destroy pieces of our lives that we can not fully recover. It wouldn’t be God coming after us to punish us either….. our sin would do that on its own. It is condemned by God to DO, it is condemned by God to READ about, and it is condemned by God to WATCH on a big screen. Because HE LOVES US and knows best for our lives.
Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost [which is] in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20
Marriage [is] honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Hebrews 13:4
But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints; Ephesians 5:3
[But] whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he [that] doeth it destroyeth his own soul. Proverbs 6:32
When I think about what I want for my life, I have a choice. We all do. On one hand, I can have everything the world could offer me. I can choose that for myself. I can choose to lust over a book or a movie and turn passions that God gave me and that I’m saving for my husband into pieces of scrap I throw into the dirt for the dogs to devour. Or, I can choose to guard my heart, keep my purity, save my feelings and passions for something God has created for me. Something penned by His hand. Something more beautiful than a human author or screenwriter or director could ever offer. I can have the beautiful, perfect, plan of God. It is available to me if I love, obey, and glorify Him with my life. Why would I settle for less?
See, my purpose is too important. My purity is too important. My future marriage is too important. My future spouse is too important. I have given my life to God, and my life is too important to give my mind to Satan to dump in the meat grinder of all the lusts of the world.
Do you trust that God knows best? Do you trust that God is right in every situation? Do you trust his word when it says to RUN from sexual immorality because it will destroy you? Do you trust that you are too important and your marriage is too important? The choice is yours, you know. You can have it all- all the lust and sin and confusion and lostness of the world. Or… you can have the beauty and peace and love of a God-centered life and a God-written love story…
I believe God.