It’s time for a reality check.
You’re a Christian. You LOVE Jesus. You are so committed to Him that you would go to Africa if He called you there. You would preach the gospel in the far corners of the earth. You live to show His love to the world and obey all that He has commanded. You are a CHRISTIAN and you don’t care who knows it.
So why aren’t you dating like it?
It’s easy when you’re single. When all we have to please is God and worry about ourselves, but when we throw a cute guy or girl into the mix we make excuses. “Well, there is no perfect person.” “They can change.” “I’m helping them spiritually.” “After we are married, things will be different.”
No. You’re being a hypocrite. You’re saying one thing- that you’re committed to Jesus through thick and thin- but you’re living a whole different game- one that satisfies YOUR desires, YOUR longings, YOUR loneliness.
Jesus didn’t bring you this far, teach you everything he has taught you, build your faith and fight for your love for you to throw it away and settle for someone who hasn’t chosen the same.
Sometimes we choose people to love and think that if WE love them correctly then everything will work out. We accept behavior that we should never tolerate and tell ourselves that everything is going to work out because WE are doing what is right. We think if we just love them like Jesus does and forgive again, then soon enough their behavior will magically turn to good. However, it’s not enough to know how to love if we simply love the wrong people.
Chances are, YOU are NOT going to change the heart of your current date. The way you get them is the way they will stay, unless GOD gets a hold of their heart. Get this down. You are not the exception; you are the rule, and if you don’t play by God’s rules, you will end up the loser.
Does your commitment to Christ change with your relationship status?
So many people talk a big game while they are single. They act like they are “waiting for the right one,” but in reality they will jump at any chance they get because they don’t have the self-control or any real commitment to God that is needed to really say “No, you’re not for me.” They’re “committed” to Christ as long as it doesn’t get in the way of an “real” commitment down here on earth. That’s not commitment at all. That’s a commitment of convenience, and it’s all for themselves.
God’s. Ways. Are. Perfect. (Psalm 18:30)
I’m not just saying this to muster up hope that someday somebody anybody will come and rescue you out of having to keep the faith and trust in God. God is always right, and if you truly are committed to Christ, it will take everything you’ve got for the rest of your life to live for Him, and baby, you had better pick someone who knows how to keep up.
Stop dating like you are free for anyone who will choose you. You’ve got standards in life, and you’ve got standards in dating and I say this with a smile because I KNOW it’s true…. You don’t have to settle. There are men and women wholly devoted to Christ. He has set them apart for one another because He is faithful and He is good and He will get the glory from your amazing God-centered relationship…but only if you value His opinion.
Where is your commitment?
You’ll die for your beliefs? Prove it. LIVE FOR THEM.