Is #mcm really ok?

Just when you thought your standards were safe……here we go.

We say we want men of God, but we are posting pictures of men of the world. We say have raised the standards for women, but were raising our eyebrows at half dressed boys. We say we want to be treated with RESPECT, but we are treating the men around us like dogs.

Is this really all harmless fun? Drooling over shirtless pictures of men who are nothing like the men of God we say we long for? Is it really ok for us to bash men for not guarding their eyes on social media and then for us to do the very same thing we condemn them for?

Shouldn’t we be holding ourselves to a higher standard.. Even on Mondays? Don’t we know what lust is? Don’t we know that it’s not something that only affects men?

Lust is a desire for someone’s flesh- a feeling inside your body, but not your heart. You don’t have to know anything about another person to lust after them. You don’t have to commit adultery with them in your mind to call it lust. All you have to do is look and want.. And this is what #mcm has become. Just a day where we all glorify the outside and hashtag #yum. When men do this, we are offended. The fact is, lust doesn’t only happen to men, and it’s not godly.

For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. 1 John 2:16

As the girls after God’s heart that we long to be, are we slipping up? Are we making mistakes that could cost our testimonies, our hearts, our lives?

I’m not saying it’s wrong to be attracted to someone. God made everyone that way. Everyone has a silly celebrity crush, a character in a book or movie that they may be a fan of or be harmlessly attracted to, but characters in a movie or book or even celebrities are just as fictional as the girls on the cover of the magazines. Every one of them is scripted, cropped, painted, photoshopped, and shown in the very best light. Just like every Wednesday when we think or say, “Those aren’t real girls….” These guys on “man candy Mondays” aren’t real either, and to SAY you want a man of God and publicly feast your eyes on the flesh of the men of the world is just wrong.

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Philippians 4:8

I get so mad, you know, when these Christian guys tell girls to be godly, dress modestly, and find their identity in Christ and then follow and chase all sorts of ungodly women. It just makes them look like fools, and sends a completely hypocritical message to the people who follow them. Well, why aren’t we upset about girls who do the same? We are being just as hypocritical when we say we want men of integrity, courage, honor, and purity and then hashtag half naked men who live lives of shame and disgrace for their own pleasure.

We scream, “Where are the good men?” And praise the bad. Well, bottom line is you get what you praise. I don’t have to sit here and tell you that woman crush Wednesday is lustful, wrong, and hypocritical for Christian men to participate in. We want Christian men so badly to stand and proclaim that the true beauty we all should be chasing after is in the HEART. So WHY is it any different for Christian women?

It really isn’t, girls. I don’t care which way you spin it. It doesn’t matter if he is Christian or not. I don’t care of he is the apostle Paul, posting half naked pictures of him on Mondays is just not right. Posting pictures of {even Christian} half naked and even clothed men who live for themselves and the world and calling them your “man candy” isn’t something a Proverbs 31 woman would participate in.

Let’s keep our eyes on the kingdom.
Let’s keep our testimonies pure.
Let’s keep the standards equal.
Let’s rise above the expectations the world has set for us.
Let’s praise the REAL, good, godly men in our lives.
Let’s match our walk with our talk.
Let’s stop compromising our purity.
Let’s not look like the world, but truly be “set-apart” in all that we do.
Let’s put an end to #mcm.

I think Ephesians 5:1-17 puts it well…

Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children;

And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savour.

But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;

Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks.

For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.

Let no man deceive you with vain words: for because of these things cometh the wrath of God upon the children of disobedience.

Be not ye therefore partakers with them.

For ye were sometimes darkness, but now are ye light in the Lord: walk as children of light:

(For the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness and righteousness and truth;)

Proving what is acceptable unto the Lord.

And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them.

For it is a shame even to speak of those things which are done of them in secret.

But all things that are reproved are made manifest by the light: for whatsoever doth make manifest is light.

Wherefore he saith, Awake thou that sleepest, and arise from the dead, and Christ shall give thee light.

See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise,

Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.

Wherefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is.



  1. This is so true, we need to guard our eye gates so they dont lead us to sin. As women of God who live to uphold the integrity of the Word of God we need to be setting standards and trends for tge world to follow.


  2. Yes! This is so timely. We must always remain cautious – to make sure we are unscathed by worldly behaviour. This was so good – but it also shows up [men/women] within church how much we don’t really understand beauty – in the manner that the LORD does.


  3. Guilty as charged. But as always, you pull me back to reality. In truth, my “covenant” eyes have gone astray. Thanks for speaking the truth.


  4. Wow, I feel so blessed by this article. And I’m so glad I discovered your blog, it was by coincidence… I saw the site address posted at the bottom of a picture on Instagram and was curious to check it out. How awesome.


  5. I do man candy Mondays every single Monday – however they’re more in a goofy way. They’re always silly pictures of one of my guy friends, fully clothed Christian guys doing nothing inappropriate, but with a silly hat or something.


    • Of course, if it’s appropriate there is nothing wrong with silliness. I’m mainly talking about the inappropriate way that many girls even Christian girls have fallen into using it.


  6. Thanks so sharing this. I like the fact that you place the blame evenly on both the man and the woman. We all have a responsibility before God to keep ourselves pure but also to help others remain pure! If only we had more women like you out there!


  7. I love your blog. I thank God, I came across it because its really teaching a lot about life. Thank you from Zambia in Africa.


  8. Thanks for your blog. This really open my eyes and heart, plus we need to change and reflect ourselves before we want others to become from our expectations first to get the godly man. I’ve wrongly treat people by want to follow what I’ve said only, for the next time I won’t do the same things again toward the people. That’s really opened my eyes and I become improving myself.


  9. This is so true. Thank you for laying this out and approaching the topic in such a perfect manner. While showing a picture of your boyfriend isn’t bad, most single girls (Christian or non) post pictures (dressed or not) of celebrities all over the place.

    Thank you for taking such initiative to remind our Godly women who they should be!


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