Mean Girls

I asked a question on twitter {@laurendemoss} the other day, and I was surprised by the response although I probably shouldn’t have been. This was the question:




Why do girls seem to be against each other all the time? Why do we feel the need to compare and cut each other down? So many girls claim they just don’t get along with other girls, and that they would rather hang out with guys… why is that?

Girls, our own insecurities can ruin our friendships. Comparing our faces, bodies, and personalities to others makes us jealous and insecure. Neither of which are attractive qualities. Jealousy is one of the big ten.

Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour’s house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour’s wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour’s. Exodus 20:17

Like I have said before, there is not one of us who is the most perfect person in the world. I don’t think she exists. There is always going to be someone who is prettier, or skinnier, or more bubbly, or more talented, or whatever than us. We are all different. If we were all made in the same way, the world would be so boring, and we would probably STILL find things to hate about someone else.

The truth is that we are all made exactly to God’s liking. Everything about us from our looks down to our personalities, is exactly planned by God for His divine purpose in our lives. Am I the only one who thinks that is the coolest thing ever?

And guess what else. Your purpose is not the same as the girl’s next to you. Her purpose is completely different! She has different talents and abilities a different look and personality, a whole different life you may know nothing about. So why are you so consumed with competing with her?

Competition is not God’s plan for His daughters. If you believe that your truest beauty is found in Christ, then you have to believe that she too is defined as beautiful in Christ as well, no matter what she looks like on the outside.

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. Proverbs 31:30

How pretty your face is matters so little in comparison to how pretty your heart is.

God is much more concerned with the state of our hearts than anything else, and if we are battling other girls around us- cutting them down instead of lifting them up- we are in sin, and He is against it. We are called to love each other as we love ourselves.

And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you. Ephesians 4:32

How often can we say that we were kind and tenderhearted toward one another at the end of that day? Kindness is a lost virtue, and girls, we just have to show it to one another. After all, we know how hard it is to be a girl in today’s world. Why would we make it harder for anyone else?

From now on, let’s make it a priority to look out for one another’s hearts. Let’s take special measures to be kind and tenderhearted to other girls regardless of the way they treat us. If you have been harboring bitterness or a mean spirit toward another girl, ask God to forgive you and go to her and make it right. Remember that we all have a special role in God’s bigger picture, and we can help one another find our purpose if we can decide not to be mean girls.


  1. I totally agree with this 🙂 P.S. I just discovered your website and I think I love it! You are so inspiring! My mom isn’t really that kind of person to talk to me about these things, so I’m glad that you can sorta be like a ‘woman-inspiration-figure’ for me 🙂


  2. I LOVE this piece!!! These days people are so keen on projecting a tough-as-nails personality and girls even take pride in calling themselves the b** word to be ‘cool’. The truth though, is that God called us to love and to build, not to compete and/or tear down. It’s refreshing to be reminded of God’s standard for His girls, God bless you!


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