Spoil Yourself.

Since when did girls have to compete for a man’s attention?? Since when were WE the pursuers instead of the pursued?? Since when did we have to try to look better than the girl next to us and reveal our bodies to catch a man’s eye?? Since when is this ok?

Ok, call me old-fashioned, but back in the good ol’ days, a man pursued a woman. He saw a girl He liked, took the chance and got to know what was inside of her, and spent his time, energy, and money winning her heart. The girl did NOT hand out her heart to any man that walked by. A girl’s heart was an expensive gift.

Girls, I just do not understand why we think that we place any value on our hearts when we shove our selves at these boys. Not to mention shoving our bodies in their faces. If a girl flaunts herself in front of the man you love, there are definitely action you will take to remove them from that situation, no? If you care anything about the guys around you a little more than you care about yourself and your “self-esteem” being fed, then you will keep yourself covered. It just baffles me that women can cheapen themselves to sex objects, and then claim that {Men Are Pigs}. Girls go to the beach with little more or less than their underwear on and wonder why disgusting men gawk at them? Stop complaining about not being able to find a good man if you are chasing all the wrong ones. We have to take responsibility for our own stuff.

We girls have so much more power than many of us realize.

Men want women. They do. God made them that way. You do not have to throw yourself at them. That’s so tired. Any self-respecting man finds that repulsive, honestly. What is really attractive to a good man is a girl who is smart, and confident in who she is. A girl who does not show her body to every pig at the park, but saves it for her husband’s eyes only. Someone with DIGNITY who seeks to be like her Lord and Savior. I’m well aware of how different this will make you than the rest of the world. Isn’t that what God calls us to– to be set apart from the world to seek better things from the hand of God?  {Jesus cares so deeply about how His daughters are presented.} Oh, please, please don’t be like the rest of them when our Jesus calls us to so much more.

“He does not want a girl who trifles with Christianity. He wants a woman who is radically given to Christ. He does not want a girl who prays tepid, lukewarm prayers. He wants a woman who lives in defiance of the powers of Hell. He does not want a girl who is self-adorning with the latest fashions and trends. He wants a woman who is adorned with the inner jewelry of Christ-given holiness. He does not want a girl who dishonors and belittles her parents. He wants a woman who honors the authorities God has placed in her life and serves them with charity and gladness. He does not want a girl whose Bible is an accessory to her wardrobe. He wants a woman whose hunger and thirst is to know the Lord, and who diligently feasts upon His Word. He does not want a girl whose tongue is a deceptive weapon of selfishness. He wants a woman whose words drip with the honey of the name of Jesus.” ― Leslie Ludy

What’s more is instead of celebrating our femininity, so often we cut each other down and give dirty looks to anyone prettier than us…. Since when is life a competition?? There are always going to be someone prettier than you. We need to learn to love each other and help our sisters in Christ grow in beauty and grace in Jesus instead of buying the cheap lies of the world.

How pretty your face is matters so little in comparison to how pretty your heart is. Believe that. Life is not a beauty pageant, and competition is not in God’s plan for His daughters.

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. Proverbs 31:30

“The New Testament describes the characteristics of a “virtuous widow” who is qualified to receive help from believers. This woman’s description seems to parallel the miraculous, poured-out life portrayed by the Proverbs 31 woman. She does not live for her own pleasure but is well reported for good works, bringing up children, lodging strangers, washing the saints’ feet, relieving the afflicted, and diligently following every good work. How does she accomplish all of this? “She trusts in God and continues in supplications and prayers night and day” (1 Timothy 5:5-6,10). She lives a supernatural existence, accomplishing incredible things without stress and exhaustion because she makes prayer the foundation of her life.” -Leslie Ludy

She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. Proverbs 31:25

Do you really love Jesus with all of your heart? You want God’s BEST? It will cost you. It will cost you more than your vanity, but it pays better rewards every time. You want a good man? Don’t throw yourself at him. Don’t pursue bad guys. You have to stop chasing the bad boys, and give the good men a chance to chase you. Dignity costs alot, have expensive taste, and, please, spoil yourself.







  1. Awesome post. Im glad you confronted this girl chase boy problem. very insightful. always enjoy that your blogs come from a Biblical perspective. can i repost this?


  2. My family wasn’t christian, so I’ve never known how to conduct myself as a women of God, us new christians only know what we see on t.v, until God shows us it ain’t the way, thank you for allowing God to use you, so we can all learn how to be an ambassador for christ in a feminine way thats still godly.


  3. Inspiring thoughts for single christian girls. Can i repost this on Facebook just for the sake of other single girls who are struggling for their future. This would be a good news for them to so inspired and strong.



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